Monday, July 31, 2006
The responsibilities of parenthood.
I've never seen such irresponsibility: a UK mother has written a column about how she finds necessary tasks of motherhood "boring". That much is fine: you don't have to like everything you have to do. But, reading down the article, it seems to go further than that: she asked the nanny to read bedtime stories, she tried to avoid changing diapers, etc. In other words, this woman had children, but then tried to opt out of some of the tasks that go along with being a parent. I find this quite strange. If I make a promise to mow someone's lawn, it's my responsibility to mow it -- even if I find the actual pushing of the lawnmower to be distasteful or unpleasant or boring. Similarly, then, if one has a child, then one must take on the responsibilities of parenthood: including reading stories, attending your child's activities, changing diapers, and so on. This is not to say parents can't have their own lives too; just that they cannot have their own lives instead. You don't take on a responsibility that you're not willing to live up to. You don't have children if you're not willing to take on the responsibility of caring for them. I have no idea why this woman doesn't understand that.